There has been an issue in my life for the longest of times,
and I have tried to parse some sense out of it for years; I’ve never really
been successful, or at best, I’ve never found any of my conclusions to be
satisfactory in the long run. So, once more we will try it again.
For years, more than a decade, I have been a hoarder of
music. I would usually go to my local record shops and buy a large quantity of
new music on paydays: that, still, is one of my most favorite and comfortable
memory templates. Leaving work on a Friday, pay stub in hand, stopping at my
band and getting some money for weekend fun, and then spending $100 on new
music. I never felt bad about this at all. But, back then, I’d usually end up
listening to most of that new music over the weekend, or the course of the next
week or so. Rarely would I have a pile of things sitting around for too long.
I’d like some things and dislike some others; I’d have records I was
anticipating and some that I picked up because they caught my interest in the
store. But it didn’t matter, nothing sat unheard for long. I always seemed to
know what the new music in the metal scene was.
Then, one week in early 2005, I ordered a batch of CDs from
a distro that was having a sale. I can name probably most of what came in that
shipment, but it doesn’t matter anymore. Then, as has become my Thomas and
Martha killed in an alley moment, the origin story that seems to be required by
almost any and all retellings of events in my life, my father died a week or so
later. I was in a bad place, musically: I love music, and it brings me so much
happiness and comfort and respite, but at the time when I was really in need of
those things, I didn’t want to listen to music. An attempt at retail therapy
lead me back to that distro and their continuing sale, and I bought another
large batch of music.
There are still records from that pile that I have not heard
yet. It has been 12 years.
I don’t even own some of those albums physically anymore,
but lug their digital counterparts around on my iPod every day. I scroll past
them every day. Some of them are from bands that I really love, and I still
can’t listen to them.
But I don’t think that this is a result of a death in the
family. I really don’t. I have always had a large music collection. Twice I’ve
moved hundreds of CDs from living space to living space, and before our move to
our current apartment, I sold off a few hundred all at once. As my life moved
forward, and technology allowed me access to more music, I continued this hoarding
behavior. Adopting an iPod allowed me to transport thousands of records in my
pocket, something that was never going to be possible before. Access to digital
music and the Internet fueled my musical curiosity, and let me obtain not only
individual albums, but full discographies of bands that I may have nothing more
than a passing interest in. Whereas in the past, I was limited by what I could
find, or what the store carried, or what was available through distros or
special orders. The Internet changed that. Now, if I remember some album I
heard and was ambivalent to in 2006, I can not only find it, but every album
before and after it. I went from amassing individual releases to stacking
discography upon discography in my “To Hear” pile. Before, owning a bands’
entire catalog was something reserved for favorite bands; now, it’s something I
do because a review on a website for the most recent album sounded intriguing.
And then, I don’t just find that specific album, but all of them. As my wife
will point out to any who listen when the topic of music comes up in
conversation, my computer has a terabyte hard drive, and 502 gigs are music. I
have friends who will marvel at my iPod when they realize that it contains full
catalogs by bands. My iPod currently holds 2,093 albums. And they are albums:
with very, very few exceptions, I don’t have single songs, but full albums. Not
sure why I mention that, other than I feel it adds weight to the weightless
digital music, or a sense of scale for something that is formless. But I have
full catalogs of bands I haven’t heard, and that in many cases I am only
curious about. Why? Do I really believe that I need a comprehensive,
encyclopedic knowledge of a band, for any real purpose? Does listening to one
album really benefit from having heard all the others? You know, I remember
going to record stores and finding one album from a band, and hearing it and
feeling like I knew something about said band, without having any mind of
absence in my life or knowledge because they had three others that I was
unfamiliar with.
Part of me doesn’t want to ruin the newness of something.
This is an issue that pervades a few avenues of my life: I will rewear the same
pairs of socks and the same shirts and stuff, all clean, of course, when new,
unworn ones exist, and I don’t have any defensible reason as to why, except for
that I have some compulsion to keep things new. Not all things, but enough
things and with enough regularity that I notice myself and really do think it’s
a problem. With music, there are albums we’ve all encountered that are just
landmark experiences in our lives, music that we sit back and cannot imagine
our lives without. Master of Puppets.
Borknagar’s Quintessence: oh man,
there’s a real possibility that that album is one of the most memorable
listening experiences of my entire life. There’s music that strikes a certain
mood or tone in our lives, and when we hear it, we are returned to that moment
or that place or time or whatever it is, like an anchor that holds us there,
but not in any kind of bad way. Xasthur’s Telepathic
With the Deceased, Soilwork’s A
Predator’s Portrait and most pre-2006 Cradle of Filth albums do this, as do
other albums that are no longer with me: Jag Panzer’s Thane to the Throne is the one that popped into my mind, for some
strange reason. Some strange part of my mind doesn’t want to spoil what could be another one of those albums.
What if in this stack of CDs is the next Quintessence?
What about brand new music? Because I do that too. A few weeks back I was
scrolling through iTunes and realized that there have been three Crowbar
records since the last one I remember hearing. Three. And yet, all the new ones
are on my iPod, so I have actively recognized them as existing; I can’t just
claim that I was unaware. Why can I not listen to that new stuff?
That I occasionally do try to do. A couple weeks back, I
spent my mornings playing Dragon Age:
Inquisition and actually listening to some new albums. So I’ve heard 2017’s
offerings from Suffocation and Dying Fetus and Obituary and Life of Agony, and
the new Rage that just came out, and I think that may be it. Whenever I do
listen to something old (or new) that I’ve been putting off, I actually feel
some type of strange accomplishment. I’ll tell my wife, “Today, I heard an
album I haven’t heard before,” and then sometimes what it was, not that she’d
be familiar with whatever it was. My wife and I are total music opposites. She
likes a few bands and a handful of records that she will listen to over and
over and over again. I have an iPod of 2,100 albums, from I don’t even know how
many bands or artists. The most played record on my iPod is We Are Motörhead at like 25 plays. But
if I try to tell her that I finally heard that Azaghal album from like 2009, it
doesn’t mean anything to her, and it’s not like it really should. But she does
often say something supportive when I can offer her such a report, because she
knows this is a thing of mine.
But how illogical is all this? I don’t want to listen to
some new album, new being relative, because then it won’t be new any longer?
What if it ends up being an important album, and by listening to it and
realizing that, I would somehow be ruining something? What? See, it never has
made any sense. It began as a backlog, and mutated into a seemingly
insurmountable blockade. Thinking about it is making me feel all tight in the
chest. I’ve thought up plans to tackle this before, like, what if I just
listened to everything on my iPod, from the first track to the last in order?
That way, I’d at least hear everything, right? While that could work, it’d also
be kind of crazy.
I feel like I really have to be able to devote time and
attention to new music, not to be a real hipster about it, but that I need to
really “hear” it, and not just listen to things. Yeah, I know. I feel like in
my younger days, I was able to retain so much of what I heard, while now, it
seems I’ll hear something once or twice and have no real recollection of it,
which will cause me to feel like I hadn’t heard it at all. That may just be a
by-product of my busy lifestyle, though, and may not really be a problem. The
real issue seems to be not wanting to destroy the newness of things. I have an
issue with shortage as well, or perceived shortages. When we start getting low
on shampoo or something, I start worrying that we’re somehow never going to
have shampoo again. Theirs is one Take the Black stout from Ommegang Brewery in
my fridge that has been there for almost a year. An excellent stout, it is part
of their Game of Thrones line of beers, and is a limited release. What if I
never find it in the store again? Of course the brewery could solve this for me
just by making it a wider release, but I’m the one with the problem here. If I
drink that bottle, I may never find it again. So instead, it sits in my fridge,
unenjoyed, and defeating its own purpose.
That kind of inability to let something go, or that
compulsion to view things as being irreplaceable or prone to shortage and thus
worthy of being saved is prime hoarder behavior. My mother was a hoarder, and I
saw it creep into most parts of our home, and really blow up after my dad died;
not, for her, out of some kind of grief, but because there was one less person
in the house, and so the hoard was able to spread. But I hoard this thing that
I love, this stuff that really does enrich my life like pretty much nothing
else does, that would be a categorical improvement in my life were I to embrace
it rather than squirrel it away.
Perhaps these albums came at inopportune times in my life,
and so they just weren’t able to be experienced in a fashion they would have
truly benefit from when they were new. I do have a strange tendency to not want
to listen to music during ill times, lest it become welded to the general
feeling of said time: for me, music is a really powerful tether to the emotion
or sensation of the past. When I first started dating the woman who would
become my wife, I was listening to three or four albums in really heavy
rotation, and to this very day, nine and a half years later, hearing those
albums, or thinking about those albums, or getting a snippet of those albums
coursing through my brain, is enough to transport me back to those early nights
of our relationship. The same goes for negative feelings: the very first note
of My Dying Bride’s The Light At The End
of The World takes me back to the brief overlap in time between my being
released by one school I was teaching at and being hired by the school I would
spend the next six years at. At the time, a time of uncertainty and real roller
coaster emotions, I was listening to that album a lot, so it became a permanent
part of the memories of those days. Maybe I would purposely put off listening
to music that was new at the time so as to prevent it from being inextricably
connected to certain times.
But that’s not entirely true, as there are plenty of records
that I’ve heard and heard again during times terrific or not so that have no
indelible connection to said times. So, is it fear of forging that connection
that would keep me from listening to some of these things? A nihilism settles
in: am I ever going to hear all of this? Will I *die* before I am able to
listen to all this potentially great music? If so, and the venture is
pointless, why do I keep it, instead of either deleting it or at very least
removing it from my iPod? How irrational a thought is all of this? And so the
mental and emotional carousel continues spinning, and there does not seem to be
any way to get off of it.
Ideally, engaging in this monologue would have allowed me to
figure out this deeply perplexing and occasionally troubling habit of mine, and
I have mixed feelings on whether it was successful or not. I feel that all I did
was restate a number of things; and yet, at times during the writing, I felt a
sort of cathartic relief as I was, if nothing else, confessing. I don’t know
that I got any closer to any answer, but it does feel like I gained a little
more understanding, even if I can’t express of what. I think that’s one of the
big issues I have with this matter: I can’t put it into words. I know something
is wrong, but I can’t express what or why, or even how it makes me feel. It’s
Lovecraftian. I don’t know if I feel any better about it, or if I have gained
any more insight or understanding. Maybe I never will understand it; maybe I never
will listen to all that music. Suddenly, it all feels incredibly pointless, never-ending;
yet, I can’t bring myself to do anything about it. If you’re not going to
listen to it, why bother having it? My wife has previously suggested that I “simply”
remove all the excess from my iPod: I put ‘simply’ in quotations because it is
not at all simple. The very idea makes me seize up, and my chest tightens. That’s
the kind of response that makes me think that this is a fairly serious problem,
and not some cute and dumb foible of mine. I feel panic at the thought of
trimming away the unheard excess, even though I know it won’t really be lost. The
thought of not having all those unheard albums terrifies me. Earlier, I mentioned
my mother being an actual hoarder, and I occasionally do fear that I am one as
well. It’s reactions like the terror of slimming down my digital music hoard
that makes me experience another terror, that of being an actual hoarder, and
what that would mean for my wife and my cat if it were true. What would they do
or think if they knew? Am I really a hoarder? Do I really have a problem?
Again, an exercise that was supposed to uncover answers or
provide a path to working out some hang ups, winds up merely raising more
questions, and causing more of that tight-chested feeling that this venture was
intended to help alleviate.
As I sit here finishing this, it is 10 am on Saturday, and I
am thinking of what I’ll listen to today. Maybe I can try to work through two
new records, although one would be quite an accomplishment. So I start
scrolling through iTunes, looking: what’s new, unheard. Do I try something from
this year or last? Do I go back to the digital copies of that large distro
order from 2005? Where does one start? There’s something I should listen to,
finally, because we have company coming over tomorrow, and they keep talking
about this particular record that I have genuine enthusiasm for, but just can’t
listen to. If I heard that, I could finally talk about it with people tomorrow.
But even as I contemplate these questions, my chest is squeezing, and I feel
panic settling in. I don’t know what I’m going to do just yet, but I’m going to
try and reach a conclusion.
Wish me luck, I guess.
No matter how today’s experiment goes, I’ll still be here
trying to solve this puzzle.
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